You Just Know

Does that phrase ever frustrate you? "You just know." Like, how did you realize that person was the one you are meant to marry?" "Oh, you just know." Well, that idea frustrates me, not because I won't know it when I see it, but I don't think it will be a feeling that "you just know."

The closest I felt something like that was when I moved to my new place. I had the feeling that it was "mine" when I first walked in. BUT, it was still a hard decision and there were many factors that led me to make it. My new home was the right size, the right location, the right layout, the right price, etc. It wasn't perfect, but I wasn't looking for perfection...just the right fit for me.

Now for meeting someone special, there has to be a similar thought process, don't you think? They have the right morals, the right personality that fits with yours, the right ideals in life, the right ways to finance, the right relationship with their family. Now by "right" I don't mean it's exactly the same as you, but that it fits with you and you fit with them in these and other ways.

I've had priests or nuns in religious life tell me the same thing about their vocation. "You just know" you fit in a Community. But when I entered the convent, it wasn't because I had some feeling of knowing, it was that I was looking for certain aspects of religious life, had prayers answered in novenas, and doors were opening for me. 

Whether it is for a vocation or other life change, it's about discernment which means weighing pros and cons. While feelings do come into these decisions, they aren't the only basis. So all in favor of eliminating the phrase "you just know" from the English language, raise your hand. I'll "just know" you agree.